Nothing Personal

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Praise for Nothing Personal

"A hero's quest, a work of reporting and sociology, and a story about the ways misogyny can misshape a woman's life… If you're single and swiping, Nothing Personal will make you feel seen."
 — Jennifer Weiner, Air Mail Weekly

"Against all odds, this unsparing, must-read portrait of modern dating and sex is also a love story."
 — Kirkus Reviews, starred review

"Sales’s funny, fresh approach will resonate with many single readers, as well as anyone concerned about the ways technology enables capitalism to invade personal lives."
 — Publisher's Weekly

"Nothing Personal intertwines intelligent investigation into what Sales calls 'the corporate takeover of dating' with a raw, funny, extremely personal ride through her own experience of looking for love in midlife."
 — The Sunday Times Style

"Relatable, hilarious, heart-breaking and eye-opening."
 — Booklist

"In this warm, witty and rigorously honest account, Sales takes us behind the scenes of her work as a journalist and filmmaker and her own experiences with Tinder. Her personal narrative is illuminated by often chilling research."
 — Marion Winik, WYPR

"In Nothing Personal, Nancy Jo Sales holds nothing back! This book isn’t just about dating in the digital age, it’s about learning to love yourself for who you are, no matter what age or size."
 — Tyra Banks

"It’s a vulnerable, in-depth look at her own life, career…the subject of online dating in the internet age and exactly how and why sexism, racism and transphobia propagate on dating apps."
 — Slate

"Even if it were nothing about internet dating, it's a thrilling read. And then to come upon the level of research and the personal story about dating and sexuality and menopause is so life-giving. Trust me on this, if you read the first page or two you’ll be hooked."
 — Anne Lamott, author of Dusk Night Dawn

"Sales hilariously and poignantly opens up about dating younger men, sending or being sent nudes, and how dating apps reinforce the sexual oppression of women."
 — Marie Claire

“An investigative memoir that sheds light on the misogyny, ageism, racism, and emotional and sexual dissatisfaction that plagues modern dating culture."
 — Toronto Sun

"The great Nancy Jo Sales pulls off such a blistering, truly heartbreaking book about looking for love, it should come wrapped in fire-proofing!"
 — E. Jean Carroll

"A really brave book…an absolute must-read."
 — Kim France, founding editor of Lucky magazine

"It's part memoir, part investigative journalism, all deeply, excruciatingly relatable."
 — Glamour

"Incredibly juicy…impossible to put down."
 — Rebecca Jennings, Vox

“The book’s mix of gonzo journalism and critical analysis follows Sales’s descent into the bloodless heart of the dating-industrial complex…unflinchingly honest, whip-smart."
 — Andi Zeisler, Bitch Media

"I love the work [Nancy Jo Sales] is doing. Keep up the good fight, Nancy Jo."
 — Kara Swisher

"A memoir of swiping right for love from a journalist who crafts page-turners."
 — Shape

"The combination of Sales’s long-term interest and her personal experiences mean she is able to offer original, thoughtful insights."
 — Financial Times

"Sales writes with humor and ethos [about] a culture that undermines the real purpose of dating—finding love."
 — Norway’s D2 magazine

"Nancy Jo Sales puts everything on the table as she investigates the dizzying impact of dating apps in both our culture and her own life. This is a hot and heavy book-hot as in sexy, as in timely, as in fully, unapologetically alive; heavy as in deeply researched, as in saturated with heartache, as in worth its weight in gold."
 — Gayle Brandeis, author of The Book of Dead Birds

"With her trademark combination of wry wit and razor-sharp observation, Nancy Jo Sales dissects the systemic misogyny woven into the fabric of the capitalist online-dating machine. A devastating portrait of how sexual violence and gender inequality are intertwined in many girls’ earliest formative experiences and how their impact echoes down generations."
 — Laura Bates, author of Men Who Hate Women

"A refreshingly honest look into the world of online dating, revealing the myriad ways tech companies are encouraging the same old misogyny but masquerading it as empowerment."
 — Anita Sarkeesian, executive director of Feminist Frequency

"Nancy Jo Sales writes about the ever-changing tides of modern romance with humility and humor that reminds us how human we all are. She explores how this growing surplus of available romantic options commodifies sex and hookups, turning courtship into utility."
 — Ryan Eggold

"Nancy Jo Sales has been a leading chronicler of our digital culture, its joys and pathologies. Sales is a gift — her journey is powerful and raw, and her humor amidst it all makes it difficult to put the book down. Brava, this is a masterpiece."
 — Danielle Citron, author of Hate Crimes in Cyberspace

"For those of us questioning what courtship even means in the age of dating apps, Nancy Jo Sales is a guide and a much-needed voice of reason who has swiped, sexted, and survived. Nothing Personal will be remembered for translating the world of twenty-first-century sex and romance."
 — Marisa Meltzer, author of This Is Big

"Groundbreaking...I love Nancy Jo’s honesty and her connection with her own brain, heart, and soul. It’s so unbelievably refreshing to read the words of a woman that are so based in truth, her truth. I love this book so much. I didn’t want to put it down."
 — Peri Gilpin

"Nancy Jo Sales has written an unflinching confession and thoroughly researched exposé of how big tech has affected the way we relate now. Amid so much hot sex, I found myself chilled to the bone."
 — Iris Smyles, author of Dating Tips for the Unemployed

"An adrenaline-fueled romp through the world of online dating. At once hilarious and disturbing, Sales recounts not only how this technology shapes our experiences of love and dating, but also how it transformed her."
 — Breanne Fahs, author of Burn It Down!

"Through a personal narration that opens your mind to the world of relationships biased by a culture manipulated by technology, Nothing Personal explores an unimagined reality for some and the lived dating experience for many. Throughout the narrative, this book will keep you going down the rabbit hole."
 — Dr. Ayanna Howard, Dean of Ohio State University’s College of Engineering

"Nancy Jo Sales is officially the world expert of dating apps. For years, she’s been a rare voice exposing the underbelly of hookup tech. The retaliation by Tinder to her earlier work didn’t stop her from penetrating the industry harder. Now, she’s reincarnated as a user taking us on the harrowing journey of her own hookups while telling us the ugly truth about the misogyny these companies perpetuate."
 — Carrie Goldberg, author of Nobody’s Victim

"A wonderful, wonderful book. Nancy Jo Sales has always been a brilliant chronicler of the sexual mores of our time. But Nothing Personal manages the enjoyable feat of reading like a touching memoir, a well-researched and balanced feminist treatise, and a frequently funny journey through funny/sad love stories like Sex in the City for the smartphone era. Like most smartphone excesses, dating app romances can be awful, but Sales is a great literary Virgil."
 — Dimitry Elias Léger, author of God Loves Haiti